Seeking Mentorship: The Unspoken Struggles of the Next Generation

A cry for mentorship by the Younger Generation

There is a growing demand for mentorship among young people—a deep craving to be guided, nurtured, and inspired by those who have successfully navigated the paths they now seek to follow. Many young individuals find themselves in a state of uncertainty, grappling with setbacks and challenges they do not fully understand. The fear of making the wrong choices or failing to realise their potential often leaves them feeling lost. Reflecting on a recent conversation with a friend and drawing from my personal journey—as well as the experiences of some of the personalities I admire—I felt compelled to address this growing call for mentorship. This piece explores the realities of mentorship, the expectations of young people, and the role successful individuals can play in shaping the next generation.

The Reality: The Grind Behind the Glam

During my visit to Legon campus yesterday, a friend confided in me that she wanted to be mentored by Berla Mundi and asked if I could speak with her on her behalf. I explained that while getting mentorship from high-profile individuals is possible, it is by no means an easy feat, but rather a rigorous battle that requires determination and diligence.

Drawing from my own experience, I recounted how I once left my office, during productive hours, and rushed to the UPSA Auditorium, hoping for a chance to meet Berla in person. That bold move marked the beginning of our relationship.

Such individuals have a vast pool of young people craving their attention and yearning for their mentorship. However, there’s only so much they can do. While many high-profile figures—like Bernard Avle, Berla Mundi, Kobby Kyei, Edward Asare, Bernard Osei-Duah, and others—have built a brand around mentoring the next generation, it’s important to remember that they, too, have lives of their own. They have families, businesses, projects, and countless other commitments that demand their time, energy, and dedication.

The price of mentorship: A value exchange system

The price you may have to pay is proving that mentoring you is worth the trade-off—that it’s worth them setting aside other priorities. Alternatively, you must show that you can seamlessly integrate into their already demanding lives without becoming an additional burden. One of the most effective ways to do this is by offering value—lightening their load in some way. If you have technical skills, a strong network, or resources that can help them accomplish their tasks more efficiently, affordably, or effortlessly, you stand a far better chance of earning even an ounce of their attention.

In essence, while many young people aspire to be mentored by influential figures, they must recognise that mentorship is a two-way relationship. It is not just about receiving guidance—it is also about adding value. At best, it is an investment. Mentors pour in you, so that you can also affect their lives or the lives of many others in the future. Take the time to study the lives and journeys of those you admire. Identify their challenges and pain points. Ask yourself: How can I make their lives easier? Offering genuine value is the key to unlocking their interest in you.

The Timing Puzzle

Another crucial factor is the moment—what some call the Kairos moment, where time and opportunity meet. One of the best ways to experience this is by attending events where such individuals will be present. Nothing compares to a one-on-one encounter with someone you admire; the connection created in that moment can be truly transformative.

However, mentorship cannot be forced. A genuine mentor-mentee bond must develop naturally. For some, the connection happens instantly; for others, it takes time. But when the moment is right, it will be unmistakably clear.

A Humble Plea to Mentors

Many young people crave mentorship, and for good reason. The uncertainty of navigating one's journey—figuring out where to go and how to get there—can be overwhelming. Some, like me, have lost a parent or both, leaving a void, craving to be filled—a deep longing for guidance. The need for direction is profound, and mentorship fills that gap.

As someone who has mentored and led many young people in various capacities and co-founded the Young Champions Global Network (ycgnetwork.org), an NGO to help young people discover and pursue their dreams, I make this humble plea: let us be kinder to those who may not have much to offer at first.

Not everyone is quick-witted, outspoken, or proactive from the start. Some take time to find their footing, yet their eventual contribution may surpass expectations. True mentorship should accommodate both the fast learners and the late bloomers.

Additionally, in selecting mentees, let us be mindful of gender balance. While I wholeheartedly support the attention given to the girl child in recent years—a ne cessary and commendable move—I urge society not to overlook the struggles of young boys. Many lack the support and guidance that girls now receive because they are expected to “figure it out” as men. A little extra support for them could make a significant difference.

Final Thoughts

Mentorship is a powerful tool for shaping the future. If you seek to be mentored, be prepared to offer value and seize the right moment. If you are a mentor, extend patience and kindness to those still finding their way. After all, the slowest runner in the race may one day become the most valuable player. Mentorship is more than a privilege—it is a responsibility. The younger generation is crying out for guidance. The question is, who will answer the call?

 

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